At times, I feel down and ask myself, “What’s wrong with me? Why am I not successful in dating? Am I cursed or something?”

Christel Payseng
2 min readOct 7, 2024

At times, I feel down and ask myself, “What’s wrong with me? Why am I not successful in dating? Am I cursed or something?” Something always seems to go wrong — when I like someone, I barely get past the talking stage. I tell myself, “Maybe I’m the problem.” But then again, even though I don’t mean to, I hear stories about severe troubles in marriage. How after the wedding day, it’s incredibly hard to adjust. Stories of couples fighting, even to the point of domestic violence. I also hear about how people’s careers are derailed because of frustrations in love. How many people have I met and advised not to commit suicide due to a broken heart? I couldn’t count how many.

I realize that, even though there are times of doubt and loneliness, I’m just being protected. A lot of the pains, troubles, financial worries, self-esteem issues, even narcissistic partners, and stories — I wouldn’t have been able to handle them. All these troubles and dramas would have dimmed my sunshine or dampened my will to live.

So, yes, there are times when I feel lonely, but it’s not a year-long loneliness. It comes and goes, and never stays long. Soon enough, I’m back to my jolly self.

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